North Webster, Indiana
January 21st-23rd, 2011
Organizer – Paul Parsons
Speaker – Steve Swope (NTM)
· Observations –
o These kids have seen huge things: people dying of hunger, illness that could easily be fixed in the states, Terrorist/guerrilla/political situations where people have been killed, etc.
o MKs need a place like this to connect and fellowship (breath).
o When an MK gets to know each other, they always seem very interested in talking about languages.
o We need to help/encourage MKs by thanking them and their families for the sacrifice they made – because they were willing to be used by the Lord, there are others who will be in the Kingdom.
o MKs worshiping is INCREDIBLE!
o When the MKs hear “this weekend let your hair down – this is MK territory” they went crazy!
§ They also expressed that that meant we were NOT on “American Time” – time is relative. Schedules are VERY loose. The only “American Time” was supper because it was “Americans” making the meal.
o Tonight is (most likely) the most internationally diverse meeting in Indiana… USA!
o Most everyone in the group knew someone from some time in their childhoods.
o One girl knew 7 languages!
o Many there have lived in more then 3 countries.
o Everyone of them was missing some kind of food from back “home”.
o Most had been in over 50 churches in the states…
o Most had been in more states then most Americans…
o Good handful of 2nd and 3rd generation missionaries.
o Family is EVERYTHING to an MK… then they are separated.
o Heard an MK who was specifically struggling because he is separated from a family member who is dying and he can’t be there with them.
o Missionaries know NOT to pay bribes! If they do, the country will take advantage and force all the other Missionaries to pay. (We’re talking unfair Bribes… not fair payments)
o It is customary for 3rd world countries to name their kids after Missionaries/MKs.
o Country/Culture Observations –
§ South America:
o Drink Terere all day long! Some countries use Hot water, some ice cold.
o Baggage carriers and taxi drivers mob you.
o Latin music is played LOUDLY all the time.
o Known for public protests.
o Jungles usually RIGHT outside cities.
o There is a strong fermented “purple drink” that people drink.
o Soccer games in the streets are known to quickly get violent!
o VERY friendly (very touchy feely culture)
o Known for gang violence.
o Known for famous “Carnival”
§ They made fun of it in a skit by saying “this is the Carnival Censored version”… Then they did absolutely nothing. lol
o They feel their style of futbol (soccer) is “perfection” – have much pride in Brazilian style.
o SUPER Chill when it comes to time. Nothing runs on schedule. If you need your car fixed for a trip tomorrow… Good luck…
o Very relational culture.
o High importance on self-grooming.
o If you take a picture of an Indian, they usually want money or copies of the picture.
§ Central America:
o Chivalry VERY much a big deal.
o Very friendly/Social culture.
o Well mannered.
o Birthdays are a huge deal!
§ Especially the 1st birthday and 15th birthday.
§ Papua New Guinea:
o PMV – Car jacking’s
o Drunks common
o Hit a pig… you owe a payment.
o Tourists usually get taken advantage of.
§ South-east Asia:
o “Peace sign” in every photo!
o Huge buses PACKED with no room. (smashed in)
o Interesting foods like Duck Fetus…
o Pick pocketers
o Everyone wants to meet Americans.
o Major Muslim foothold.
o Super polite – They will give you a gift when you visit their home. Gifts range, but can even be a new pair of socks.
o Smoking (though not really allowed) happens a lot on airplanes.
o Group exercise – even on flights on planes!
o Rice, Rice, roman noodles, fish, more rice.
o Baggage carriers don’t wait until asked to get your bags (for better or worse). – you must pay…
o Most tourists mistake all Asians as “Chinese”.
o Public Baths (taken together) – time of fellowship.
o NO ONE can talk or talk on their cell phone on the train. It is a very quiet environment.
o Group exercise is apart of life; group environments and even at work.
o You treat the boss as a master and you must bow. DO NOT greet like you do in America (handshakes/hugs)
o Guys hold hands.
o Indians infamous accent.
o Bollywood dancing.
o Parent planned (Forced) Marriage still a major tradition.
o There is an ongoing problem between Pakistan and India… Youth get in relationships and it’s like Romeo and Juliet.
o Family is the CENTER of life.
§ Tradition to have MANY babies.
o Known that American woman LOVE men with British accents.
o Most Europeans are BIG on recycling.
o Most Europeans greet with kisses on the cheeks.
o The bathroom is known as “the Lue” and many of the public bathrooms cost a fee.
o Slaughtering Goats is still a common practice.
o Drums, Dancing, Singing is a HUGE part of culture.
o Bride price practice:
§ Goats, money, Tabasco Sauce, Deodorant…
§ Scam artists
· Boss man uses Physical Violence to keep people in line.
§ North Americans –
· Staff Kids:
o Tend to compare each other in how “multi-cultural” they are.
o Have a tendency to think they are experts on all cultures.
· Speaker – Lesson notes from Steve Swope’s talk –
o Purpose of weekend:
§ 1. Time and a place to come together… FREE to be a MK!
§ 2. Thank you and your family for your sacrifices.
§ 3. Instill a pride in being an MK.
§ 4. To encourage you (not preach to you)
§ 5. Some of you (in a group this size) are at the end of your rope.
o Your identity is MORE than being MK…
§ Mks area very unique group where you are known for your parent’s occupation!
§ “You belong to a VERY select group of people.”
§ Some REJECT that they are MKs and some make their soul identity in being an MK. (not identity in the Lord)
o “We need to look honestly and find whether we are suppressing our Identify or if we have forgotten it.
o “Most of us have only known Christian Culture…
§ Not just through my parents, but through ALL out “Aunts and Uncle”.
· We can sometimes feel like with that surrounding, we can’t make mistakes.
o THEN we go to the states…
o “We have the ability to create our own identity, so that is what we tend to do…”
o Tenth Avenue North – You are more – Great song that helps MKs in Identity crisis.
o “The world is before us… There is much you can “do”… but what does your heart beat for?”
o “I will not assume that just because you are an MK and have heard the Word that you are a Christian…”
o When we put our identity in “circumstances” we enter an endless cycle of disappointment.
o Chicago “silver bean” illustration
§ Reflected image is distorted and not real.
§ What is your mirror you use when you look at yourself…
· Mirrors of our world? (friends, culture, enemies, etc)
o You are ADOPTED into God’s family…
o Great video with Chuck Bomar that points out that like we only truly see the “good moments” (however few) when we think of a daughter… and the bad moments “are not really her”.
§ That is how God see’s us.
· RESOURCES –
o Michele Phoenix – MK Advocate/Blogger – Black Forest Academy – Wheaton, Il
§ Awesome Blog called “Lies MKs Believes –
· Why Kids hate America
o Chuck Bomar – College Ministry – Great for MK college students.
o Donna Messenger – MuKappa Rep
o Perry Bradford – Barnabas International Director – MuKappa Director
o MTI (in Colorado)
o Gatehouse – Redding, Ca
o Books for MKs:
§ Christian Atheist – Craig Groshel
§ Broken down House
§ Crazy Love and Forgotten God– Frances Chan
o MK Group Games/Activities:
§ Ask the group to raise their hand if they have eaten…
· Doesn’t matter what bug/animal you name… at least 10 have eaten it!
§ List countries represented and ask them to yell something crazy in their language!
§ WORSHIP is INCREDIBLE
o Verses I heard MKs hold on to:
§ Matt. 19:29
§ Isa. 42
o Tenth Avenue North – You are more – Great song that helps MKs in Identity crisis.
o “MK Song”
o Chuck Bomar DVD series “Who AM I?”
· Paul Parson’s Story –
o Comes home from Ghana, flew back to the states will all the African MKs returning to states, enjoyed the trip immensely, got to JFK Intl’ airport… and boom everyone when different directions to different planes.
§ Has not heard/seen 70% of them since. (30 years)
o Was incredibly hurt even when he thought he was well rounded. He was hurt and mad his parents for a long time for the situation “they put him into” and hated America for a long time.
· Conversation with Donna Messenger –
o Works with Colleges in Ohio/Indiana area to develop MuKappa Chapters.
o Coordinates MK Reentry Retreats.
o Talked about Perry Bradford – Barnabas/MuKappa Director.
§ Lives 40 minutes from Waukesha.
o Talked at length about issues behind MK ministry.
§ Encourage and inform churches about the need and tangible ways to get involved.
§ Connection/networking opportunities for MKs.
§ MK transition care
o The MuKappa Rep. role
§ Mukappa needs in California.